thoughts about friendship

I was thinking about fatherhood recently. Yes, fatherhood. Not parenthood. But this post is not about parenting as the title already tells you. I am thinking about friendship tonight.

My question is who makes a better friend? The person who respects your views, or the person who actively looks out for you? That is how I am stating my question for now. Perhaps it requires some restatement, but for now it works.

Both people do care for you of course, but they show their concern in different ways. Would you prefer the girl friend who tells you that she doesn't like your boyfriend, or the girl friend who doesn't say much and still says nothing when you break up? Perhaps it is hard to decide.

Would you prefer the friend who tells you that you're heading down the wrong path, or the friend whose opinion you can sense but who doesn't say a thing? I think it's hard to decide. What if you are not headed down the wrong path? What if something good did come out of it?

I never figured out how to deal with such situations, but if you know me, I'm the one who says nothing. Most of the time, I hate to jinx anything in case it does work out. I trust my friends to take care of themselves as best as they can. I hope my trust is not misplaced.